Building something great requires intentional framing – not only using the best supplies, but also fitting and using those pieces to where they create the most structurally sound design.
That’s how you construct strong buildings. That’s how you construct strong cities. And that’s how you construct strong people.
I’m not usually the guy who needs accolades or “atta-boys.” Yesterday morning, I was helping some men in our church move lumber. And it was tough. Especially for me.
For two reasons: 1, I don’t like to get dirty. I like to use my mind. Tools? No thanks. 2, I’m not very muscular (okay, I’m not muscular at all!).
But for two and a half hours, we busted our tails working up a good sweat as we moved truckload after truckload of lumber to another area of our church property. As lunch approached, we finished up.
And then an older man said it, and I haven’t been able to get it out of my head since:
“James, I’m proud of you. You did good.”
Statements like that make me want to work even harder. It makes me want to be better and add to the overall integrity of what’s going being done.
That statement has stuck with me, and the more I think about it, the more I notice what that statement does: it gives dignity.
Dignity, according to this article, leads to empowerment and promotion; when given, it elevates the other.
And that’s important to leadership because empowerment and promotion helps others grow stronger. Giving dignity:
- gives others a sense of self-worth
- strengthens another’s resolve
- boosts confidence
- encourages positive work ethic.
It’s like the author of Proverbs says, “A city is built up by the blessing of the upright.”
When you give dignity to someone else, you’re building him up. Which in turn builds up the house. Which in turn builds up the city.
Leaders know how to intentionally frame and build by giving dignity and promoting self-worth.
When was the last time someone said to you, “I’m proud of you”? How did you feel afterward? Were there any positive results that came from that encounter? And when was the last time you said to someone, “I’m proud of you”? What other benefits do you see of giving dignity or intentionally framing?