Mother’s Day: Silent Tears

“Mother’s Day”…

For some, just saying those words are painful.  Mother’s Day is a special day set aside to show just how special mothers are. But what about the mom that just lost her child or the mom who just lost her own mother or the mom who longs to have a child of her own?

I remember my very first Mother’s Day after the passing of our son Alex. I sat in the pew with tears in my eyes because I didn’t have a little one to enjoy Mother’s Day. Then years later after losing my own mother, it seemed to be an even harder day. I had to learn how to go through life’s milestones without those that we love and need.

Mother’s Day can be a reminder of many things. I plead with you this Mother’s Day: look around your church and see those silent tears

…the woman who is reminded of her singleness and longs to have a family of her own.

…the woman that has tried for years to have a baby but for some reason infertility has crept in.

…the woman who has miscarried that is reminded of her loss.

…the woman who had to bury her child (or children).

…the woman who had to bury her own mother.

…or even the woman whose grown children do not call or visit her.

So how can we make the most of this Mother’s Day? How can we find joy in this day? How can we help those around us that are dreading Mother’s Day?

Mom…I see you…I feel your pain.

This Mother’s Day choose joy!

Ideas to help you choose joy today:

-start a tradition. Plant a rose bush, release balloons, send a card to a stranger.

-reach out and be a “mother” to the motherless.

-call a friend and celebrate.

Ideas for you to help your friend who is in the midst of pain of not having her children here to celebrate with her:

-send her a handwritten note/card.

-call her.

-send her flowers.

-acknowledge her hurt.  Allow her to speak of her baby’s name and talk about them.

-simply be present.

Don’t allow the enemy to steal the joy that motherhood brings. If you are hurting this Mother’s Day, I encourage you, friend, to reach out and celebrate. Our God is so faithful. He is by our side walking with us on this journey of life (however painful it may be).

Happy Mother’s Day

PS. Tomorrow, James will post an article on “How to Help My Wife Who’s Hurting on Mother’s Day.” Check back tomorrow for more hope in the hurt!

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