One of the best indicators for deciding who’s the leader comes down to this word:
Who says the word “let’s” most often in your relationships, in your business, in your school?
That’s the person in charge.
For example, the word let’s is a powerful word that presidents use. A quick search of presidential speeches reveals that they use the word more often than not. Take President Reagan’s Berlin Wall Speech, given June 1987, where he uses the word four times to bring about leadership through change. Or President Bush (HW)’s inaugural speech, where he emphatically says, “Let us produce,” in 1989. Or President Obama’s acceptance of the Nobel Peace Prize in 2009, where he leads us to the future, saying “Let us reach for the world that ought to be.”
But it’s not just with presidents, is it?
Leadership in our relationships matters, so you’ve got to figure out if your the leader or not.
But even more important than just our regular relationships is our marriage relationship. God calls a man to lead his wife and to lead his family. In fractured families, the usual culprit is that a man isn’t leading well, which stems from multiple issues. It could be that you, as the husband, aren’t worth following. I’ve been there. Those phases in our lives, as a man, happen because of sin or selfishness, keeping us away from reading and studying God’s word. Less often, but also related to sin and selfishness, is a man’s inability to lead, usually through ambivalence or lassiez faire attitude of “Eh, the wife will take care of it.”
I cannot more emphatically state the following:
Men, it is up to you to lead your wife and family well.
You may say, “I’m leading. People follow.” But are they following out of freedom or out of fear? Husbands and dads lead best out of love.
Let’s think of ways to encourage our wives and children towards love and good deeds.
Let’s lead well, guys.
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